More Bloody Controversy.

Earlier this week I wrote a period poem. In an effort to show my voice and expand my blog I posted it. I never imagined it would cause any controversy, but I was wrong. Certain people I know and love very well were very upset that I wrote a public blog post about something they felt should be kept private. For the last week I have been mulling this over in my mind, and finally I decided to write a post explaining why I write period poems, why I will continue to write period poems, and why I am happy to generate any type of conversation on the topic of women’s bodies.

According to, about 334 million girls and women are on their period right now. says roughly 100 million women are pregnant right now. Almost one in five women have been sexually assaulted or raped. There are about 1.2 million abortions every year. About 1 in 4 women have miscarriages in their lifetime. These statistics are not just numbers, they are experiences shared by women all over the world. And, just in case you missed it, they are all related to periods and vaginas.

All of these topics are difficult to talk about, hard to find comfort and support for, and sometimes hard to even admit to, much like our periods. From a young age, we are told that our menstrual cycle is something to be ashamed of, to loathe and fear and hide. By asking young girls to be ashamed of their bodies, we are asking them to be ashamed of themselves. We are shaping the way they value themselves, and how they will fit into the world as they grow. In some cultures women are shunned during their menstrual cycles. In our culture, we separate her body from her soul, make it an object, a thing which anyone who feasts his eyes upon it may own. The fear of the unknown abyss of the wombs of all women has manifested in many different ways.

Periods, much like death and birth, are a form of blood magic. Every month women sacrifice their own blood, tissue, and tears, whether they like to or not, for the human race. Because women bleed, men may live. Wars are fought and wars are won, but we could live without them. The human race would go on. That is not true for periods. As vulgar and grotesque as they are, we would all die without them.

Why, then, should we be ashamed? Should we not be celebrating? Or at least develop some type of ritual, to remind us from where we came? If the way we viewed something as simple and natural as a period in a more positive light, could we change the way the world views women?

I will leave you with these questions. I would love to read your answers and general thoughts in the comments.

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This was my original inspiration for my period poem. I first saw this video in my WGS class last year, and I still watch it almost every month, around the time I start feeling sorry for myself.


4 thoughts on “More Bloody Controversy.

  1. I love the idea of a period poem (and the poem itself, now I have read it). Periods are nothing to be ashamed of at all and I think should be celebrated. Especially that first period. When I had my first, my mum bought me a bar of chocolate.

    I’m fortunate to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t see any problem with periods either. (This is especially fortunate because there have been a few of those unexpected visits when we were being romantic). In fact, he once told me that he’d helped an absolutely terrified female friend who had lost the string of a tampon and couldn’t get it out. As he said then ‘it’s just blood, and she was nearly hyperventilating. Why wouldn’t I help her?’.

    Unfortunately, this mentality of ‘it’s only blood’ seems rare in men – I’ve had my share of male friends, plus family members like my brother and Dad who would rather hear about murders than know when I’m on my period. Most of the women in my life use a euphemism or confess it in a whisper, like a sin, especially if they need to get a sanitary product from you because they’ve been caught short.

    Yet, despite people’s discomfort and embarrassment, they still happen every month! I think it’s about time people started looking at periods differently. Keep writing poems!

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  2. I share your thoughts on this subject. Yes, the onset of womanhood needs to be celebrated and its celebrated in my culture as important as an wedding. But after that one celebration we are are relegated to the ‘backyard’.


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